Think about starting by asking if he would feel at ease being expected away by a lady? Then if he responds absolutely, ask then.

Additionally, rather than welcoming him to surf/swim/movie, what about coffee products and a stroll in a park? Or perhaps meeting for coffee at a coffeehouse. It might be reduced stress. However in situation it goes well, you will need to have a basic concept for something different the both of you could get do following the coffee.

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